What Are the Best Ways to Approach Women
Being a nice guy doesn’t work. This is common dating advice that women give, but it doesn’t work for men. Never take dating advice from women. Women can get laid by being nice to men. It’s that simple for them. Men need to be attractive, confident and successful. Nice guys aren’t getting laid in droves and you know this.
If you’ve found yourself frustrated with the dating game and with bad advice, then read on. Because this article holds the key for helping you understand women and how you can get a girlfriend.
Adam Layne Smith is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT). He is also a prolific author. If you’re a fan of John Wick, then you’ll love his 80s action flick inspired novel, Maxwell Cain: Burrito Avenger. The cover art alone should sell you on this fast paced and hilarious book!
Adam has been happily married for 11 years so he understands what makes a relationship work. He has never been divorced. And as a licensed marriage and family therapist, Adam helps people meet women who would make healthy partners.
Adam’s course on How to Get a Girlfriend is about an hour of concise material about weeding out women with red flags, finding healthy women, how a man can assess and enhance his value from the female perspective, evolutionary psychology about the female sex drive and communication style, and how to have a perfect first date.
If you are already married, this advice has helped marriages on the brink of divorce. One of the biggest causes for divorce is the apathy that seeps into marriages. If you think that you can simply stop trying once you’ve “settled down” you’re playing with fire - And not in an exciting way.
First off, you need to decide what you’re looking for in a girlfriend
Most guys looking for a girlfriend are so thirsty (yeetspeak for desperate) that they will literally jump at the opportunity to talk to any girl who won’t run from them. Girls sense this desperation and lack of discernment. This makes them feel disposable and turns them off. Take the time to really think about what you’re looking for.
What are the best ways to meet women?
This may seem hard if you’re spending most of your time playing video games or trolling internet forums. This may lead you to look on internet dating services, but you already know that these are heavily skewed to favor women. Plus there’s definitely a question of quality control on these sites.
Your best bet in meeting women is to go out in the real world and be active. By simply getting out of the house, you’ve already helped your odds tremendously. Take up some classes or join local activities. If you meet a woman who is taking the same class as you, you’ve already got a shared interest. Once you’ve realized that yes, there really are women out there, you can start approaching.
How to approach women
This is something that gives almost all guys anxiety. And I’ll let you in on a little secret. Even super suave and attractive players get nervous sometimes and botch approaches. But they don’t let it phase them, because they play the numbers game. The first thing you need to understand about approaches, is that you must have a short memory. If you only approach one girl every 3 months, you’re going to beat yourself up about the botched approach. But if you’re approaching girls every day, suddenly those missteps don’t seem so important. This helps lower ‘approach anxiety.’
When you do approach, stay calm and communicate confidence. This starts with the way you dress, so swap out your ratty old graphic tees for more simple shirts, henleys or button downs. And pay attention to things like your shoes and watch. Skip the cheesy one-liners and make a simple observation comment. Then say, “Hi, I’m (your name).” From here you simply need to keep the conversation flowing. If you’re getting a bunch of one word answers, she’s likely probably just not that into you. Don’t take this personally. She may simply be having a bad day or maybe you’re not her type.
You need to be interesting and exciting, but don’t dominate the conversation. Let her talk to and actively listen to her. Stay off your phone. Make it very clear that you’re romantically interested and not platonically. Too many guys fall into this trap of becoming friends first because it’s easier. But you’ll almost never escape the dreaded friendzone!
Also, check out her body queues. Are her feet and shoulders squared off at you? Her interest will follow the direction they are facing. Is she smiling and locking eyes with yours? This is usually an awkward / exciting moment for both people. If you can be funny and lighten the mood, she’ll have better memories of you when you go to text her later. And whatever you do, make sure you ask for her number. The feeling of regret is often worse than rejection.
How do you get her number? Simple. You ask her for it. I’m serious here. You can dance around the topic or make a joke about asking for her number. But the simple approach is best here. Be direct and say something to the affect of “I’d really like to see you again. What’s your number?” This honest approach is refreshing in a world full of pick up artists and players.
I could write an entire book on all the techniques and philosophies of meeting girls and how to find a girlfriend. But it doesn’t need to be so complicated. Fortunately for you, my friend Adam Layne Smith has succinctly put into words everything you need to meet a quality girlfriend.
Adam discusses many important topics that will help you meet women and better understand gender dynamics from a psychological perspective. By delving into underlying instinctive drives, women’s behaviors will make much more sense to you.
Understand what women are looking for in a male partner
Learn how to spot unhealthy women
Where you can find a girlfriend
How you can improve your own value
What to do on your first date and after that first date
Understand the reason for women’s sometimes confusing behavior
Normally this advice is about $150 per hour, but this course is only $37. If you want to learn what you’re doing wrong, if you want to know the red flags you’re missing, if you’re ready to meet a nice girl, check out Adam’s course on how you can get a girlfriend.
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